Do you remember what life was like when you were 12 years old? We bet you were just as impatient for the day that you got to turn 13 years old. It was a special day because it meant that you were no longer a kid, but a teenager! This usually calls for a special celebration, or even two parties, if you are the child of divorcees. Kelsey Frederick is one of those kids who grew up with more than one birthday party. Her parents, Christin and Schaffen, had no issues coordinating how to split her big day. However, a surprise happened on her big day… and it was not the good kind.
Two Parties For One Teenage Girl
Kelsey Frederick could not wait for her big day. She was turning 13 years old this year! At last, she was going to be a teen. She was thrilled about the parties she would be having. She was used to it by then.
She hoped that it was going to be different from the years that came before this one. It was a special occasion, so she wanted the day to reflect such a thing. How was she going to celebrate it this time?
One of the best things about this day was that she was getting highlights installed in her hair! It was the first time she would get to do this. She was glad her mother agreed! All the girls at school had them.
Off To Dad’s House
She and her mother spent a long time at the salon. After the makeover, it was time for her to spend the rest of her day with father. However, his reaction had not been what she was expecting.
She’s Not Alone
There are tons of people out there who grew up with two families. Do not worry, she gets to spend a lot of time with both her mom and dad. The two of them get an equal amount of time with all of their kids.
She alternates her weekends with them, so it is not easy for her to get bored on the weekends. The young girl likes to go to baseball games with her dad and brothers when it is his turn to watch the kids.
Mother And Daughter Duo
A lot of kids out there have a bad relationship with their parents. Kelsey and Christin are on good terms with each other, however. In fact, they will not hesitate to tell you that the two of them are best friends!
A Close-Knit Bond
It is the kind of bond that you wish you had with your own mom. Kelsey is not afraid to tell her mom anything under the sun. The young girl must be glad that she can always turn to her mom for anything.
A Different Kind Of Relationship
Kelsey and her dad get along well. Still, it just does not compare to how close she and her mom are. He is not quite as invested in the things that happen in her life. Kelsey also spends more time with Christin.
A Family Affair
She had been a little girl when her parents got the divorce. It is always hard when things like this occur. We are happy to hear that she got through it with the help and love of her siblings and cousins. We are sure that it would have been much harder if they were not around to help her out back then.
She has always been a big fan of sports. It was a good idea for her to have a hobby like this since it helped her through the changes that were happening in her life. Both Christin and Schaffen did not want her life to change completely after they got the divorce.
We bet that everyone was relieved that her parents did not end on bad terms. In fact, they made sure to stay friends for the children. They actually sat down to talk about how they were going to raise and discipline the kids, so they primarily agreed on how to go about this.
A Little Fish
You might not think that it is a big deal, but we admire them for agreeing to bring Kelsey out to Lake Ever each month. This was a trip that Kelsey liked a lot, and they reasoned that there was no harm in continuing to do this just because they split up.
After the divorce, Schaffen got his second shot at romance with Sarah, one of his colleagues at the fire department. Kelsey was okay with this. In fact, she got along quite well with the new woman in his life.
He eventually proposed to Sarah and she said yes! They only made it official at the courthouse but still dressed up to the nines for the special event. Kelsey was thrilled about these changes in her dad’s life.
The Deal With Her Dad
His new wife did not come between him and Christin either. All that his ex-wife asked for was that Sarah would not mess with the way that they agreed to raise Kelsey and the boys.
Nothing Would Change
The kids might have a stepmom now, but they did not want anything to change with the way they raised the children. Kelsey herself had no bad feelings about it. In fact, she was only glad to see her dad happy.
Strong Women All Around Her
Kelsey had no problems with strong women since she actually grew up with a lot of them in the past. There was her Aunt Kelly, who always helped them out and served as her second mother. Apart from that, there was also Haylee Ann. She was a godmother who Kelsey adored!
Endless Maternal Figures
The two ladies were good role models for her. They were there if she needed both wisdom and advice. There were many great maternal figures around her, so she welcomed her stepmom with open arms.
One thing that made the divorce easier was the fact that Christin and Schaffen both lived in Fostoria, Ohio. They lived nearby, so it was not hard to make arrangements, especially when it came to birthdays. Are you ready to hear what exactly happened during her birthday? Keep reading if you want to know.
We bet you also think that it is hard to pick out a gift for your loved ones. However, Kelsey was not your usual recipient. She had hobbies that many girls her age did not enjoy. What should they get her?
Kelsey had one request. She did not want any glitz! She was not a “girly-girl” at all, so she did not want anything sparkly or pink. Her mom even consulted their loved ones to get something that she would like.
Not Like Other Girls
Kelsey played softball and went fishing, but she already had everything that those two hobbies would require. Besides, it did not seem like it was a great idea to give her sports gear on such a special day. As you can see, she was a happy girl already. What do you think would make her even happier?
Something A Bit Cheaper
There was one thing that she always wanted: a Mia Hamm jersey. However, it was far too pricey. Her mom and dad could not afford it. What would she like that would not burn a hole through their pocket?
Kelsey was counting down the seconds to her big day. This is normal behavior when you are at that point in life. Like other 12-year-olds out there, she was just excited to finally call herself a teen. She and her school friends were all trying to come up with cool ways to do on her birthday.
An Important Milestone
Christin was shocked when she realized that Kelsey was truly growing up. Had 13 years actually passed since she gave birth to this lovely young girl? There was no way she could deny that time really does fly.
It was an important moment for Kelsey, so Christin took it upon herself to give her daughter something special to go with it. On the previous birthdays, she always tried to surprise her daughter. This time, she decided that it was time to give Kelsey the freedom to pick her own gift.
A Beauty Queen
A lot of girls like to do their hair and makeup. Kelsey was no exception to this rule! She was always thrilled when the family had to go to a wedding. She knew that a glam day was waiting for her. Christin was more than aware of this. After all, her daughter liked to use her products a lot!
Highlights For My Birthday
“Mom, I want to get highlights for my 13th birthday,” Kelsey told her. Despite everything, Christin could not believe what she just heard from her daughter. What did she say in return? Did she agree?
It was not unusual or wild, but it is still hard for her to think that her child wants to look a different way. Christin was also concerned that her daughter had insecurities about her looks. She felt a bit worried.
Like Her Mother
One thing she did was to remind herself that she also placed highlights on her hair before she even had the kids. It was not different from what Kelsey wanted to do! She would be a hypocrite to say no now.
It was true that she felt a little surprised, but she did ask Kelsey to choose anything that she wanted. There was no way she could take it back at this point. She noticed that Kelsey’s hair did get browner over the years. It made sense to add more color to it. Besides, many girls got highlights all the time.
A Great Big Sister
There was another reason for her to agree to the request. Aside from the birthday, she was also very proud of Kelsey. She was the eldest of her kids and served as a great role model for her little brothers!
Mom And Daughter Bonding Session
She made up her mind. Her daughter deserved a nice birthday bash. They went to the beauty salon on the big day. While they were both nervous, they decided to have a mom and daughter bonding session.
It was a good thing that the local salon had been offering pedicures, massages, and manicures. The two of them were in for a great time! Christin was a regular there, so they also landed a nice discount. Score!
Matching Mom And Daughter
Christin and Kelsey got matching manicures and pedicures. How adorable is that? They had such a great time, but little did they know that something else was going to happen later that day. What could it be?
A Relaxing Day
The two of them waited for the makeover to happen. They spent quite some time in there and had a great day together. At last, she showed her daughter the mirror. Would she like the result? Let us see.
Could Not Believe Her Eyes
Kelsey looked at the mirror and could not believe what she saw. The highlights made her look like a completely different person! Even her mom had a hard time recognizing her. She had to admit that this was the most beautiful she ever saw Kelsey, although it had more to do with the smile on her face.
A Surprise Up Her Sleeve
Christin had one more surprise for her lovely daughter. Hair? Check. Nails? Check. What else could possibly be missing here? Why, she still needed to get her makeup done, of course. How exciting is that? Of course, there was nowhere else for them to go but Sephora.
Christin did not forget to snap a photo of the birthday girl. She then took to Facebook to post it so that all of her friends would see. They had no idea that someone would see it and decide that they did not like it. Who could it have been?
Next Stop Is Dad’s Place
Kelsey wanted nothing more than to step out and show her new look to everyone. However, the plan was for her to go to her dad’s place. Christin was done with her birthday bash, so it was his turn now.
Christin was perfectly happy to leave her daughter with her ex-husband. She drove Kelsey all to way to where Schaffen lived. According to their plan, Kelsey would stay with him for the whole weekend. This was not an issue since they wanted her to grow up with both of her parents.
Kelsey had a habit of leaving her phone unattended when it was her turn to stay with her father. Since the weekends were split between her mom and dad, she wanted to make the most out of the time she had with them. There was no reason for Christin to hear from Kelsey, but she felt anxious the next day.
Christin told herself that there was no reason to worry. Her daughter was in perfectly good hands over there. However, it would seem like there is truth in the saying that mothers know best! She waited for the moment that Kelsey would come back. She also wanted to know how Kelsey liked her new ‘do.
Who Was She?
At last, Kelsey finally returned after spending a couple of days with Schaffen. Christin answered the door after the doorbell rang, but she was shocked by the sight that greeted her there. It was her daughter, but something was not right. Why was her face swollen and puffy?
What Was It?
There were many things going through her mind at that moment. She wanted to know if Kelsey was hurt. Did the young girl and her new stepmom get into a fight? Did she argue with her dad? Christin thought that it was also possible that he took her to the fire station, which was not her favorite place.
At that point, she had to do a doubletake after she saw her daughter’s hair. There was something off about it. Her hairstyle was not the same as it had been when Christin brought Kelsey to her dad’s house.
It was bad enough that the highlights in her hair were gone. However, the most shocking thing about this was that her hair has been chopped off as well. Was Kelsey unhappy with it? Did she cut it on her own?
A “Chop Off”
The way the hair had been cut showed that it had been butchered off at one point. A hairstylist gave her input: “What they did to that poor child, it’s a “chop off”, it’s a boyish cut with no styling whatsoever”.
From Extreme High To Extreme Low
It also broke her heart to see her daughter putting her face in her hands, refusing to show Christin her face. It was easy to see that she was not happy with her hair. Christin had to find out the whole story.
On her big day, Kelsey felt pretty and happy after spending the day at the salon. We bet she did not think that she would later feel ugly and humiliated in only a few hours. At that point, she hated seeing her face in the mirror. Her self-esteem went down the train after this entire ordeal. What happened?
She could not get her daughter to answer her questions, so there was nothing to do but go to her ex and clear things up. Christin was so angry as she made her way over there. She was mad that he would treat their daughter like that, and on her birthday of all days!
How Could You
When she got there, she went up to the door and started to bang on the door. She screamed at Schaffen and Sarah, asking them what they did to Kelsey. Christin also wanted to know why they did not bother getting in touch before they did something like that. She had a hard time thinking clearly.
It turns out that they did not like it and decided that she deserved to be punished for it. For them, highlights were much too precarious for a 13-year-old girl. They said, “actions have consequences”.
Against Her Wishes
Schaffen and Sarah had no idea just how true this adage was. Well, Christin was going to show them this. The police chief got involved and said, “The mother was upset at how her child was being cared for. The haircut was done against the child’s wishes under the direction of the girl’s father and stepmother”.
Smile No More
Kelsey had been a happy and smiling girl when Christin dropped her off. That girl was now nowhere in sight. Her mother was still shocked at what Schaffen and Sarah did. It was only blonde highlights, right?
Taking Her Frustrations To Facebook
We do not blame her for how angry she was. She decided that she could let go of her frustration by talking about it on Facebook. Christin used the social media platform to share what happened to Kelsey.
She wanted him to feel what Kelsey must have been feeling. How could they make someone so sweet suffer like that on her birthday? Hopefully, this will make Schaffen and Sarah see that they went too far.
When You Go Viral
Not once did she intend to create a viral post. No, her only intention was to make their friends and family see what Schaffen did to Kelsey. She wanted to blow off steam and get the support that she needed at the time. You will later see just how much it blew up!
In No Time
There was no way for her to have known just how many people would be interested in the story. It made rounds on Facebook. A lot of people could not believe how Schaffen punished the poor girl!
People Were Outraged
It is impressive to hear that users shared the post 24,000 times and reacted to it 33,000 times. The users did not really hold back when it comes to discussing what they thought about it. Look at this response.
A Little Too Much
Kelsey found all the replies to the Facebook post a little too much. The attention was unbearable for her. Let us not forget that she was a 13-year-old girl who just experienced a stressful, even traumatic, ordeal!
Outrage From Strangers
Christin made the post to look for support, and she definitely got more than she bargained for. She was shocked to see the numbers go up. Strangers began to call what happened “ridiculous” and “disgusting”.
Stand For Your Kids
Here is another comment that someone else left on the post: “What a cruel thing for a parent to do to their child. So sorry that happened…beautiful no matter what!” Let us see how Kelsey was faring. The young girl was not equipped to deal with all the stressful events happening in her life.
Middle School Woes
She was not ready to go to school and show everyone her face. It was already bad that she hated the way her hair looked, but now they all knew what happened thanks to the post. It was too much for her.
Like Nothing Had Happened
Her brothers were enjoying school as usual. Like them, her dad and stepmom went about their normal lives. Sadly, Kelsey could not say the same thing. She still felt hurt and angry by what they did to her.
Theories And Speculations Abound
It is not surprising to hear that many people did not approve of what Schaffen and Sarah did to Kelsey. Still, some of the readers believe that this was more than just a case of a controlling parent. Let’s hear it.
Everyone Had An Opinion
A user gave their two cents and said, “I think the daughter was unfortunately in the middle of a get back at you between both parents fighting.” Do you think that there was any truth to such a theory? Hmm.
Jennifer McVay is a hairstylist with Pear Tree Salon with 27 years of experience under her belt. She said, “Your hair is what really makes you feel good. If your hair looks good, you feel good. She had beautiful long hair, that beautiful little girl is now walking around embarrassed”.
A Fine Line
“Another person, aside from the father, is at fault. The one holding the scissors. But, back to the father, why would they want to humiliate their daughter that way? That was crossing a fine line,” she went on.
The Highlight Problem
Other parents did not entirely agree with someone so young getting highlights. These people said that they would also be upset if their child had those treatments done without their consent or knowledge. However, they also clarified that this did not mean they support what Schaffen chose to do in return.
A lot of people felt like 13 years old was not old enough for a girl to start using hair dyes. They said that the exception is Halloween, but it should be wash-out hairspray or wigs. There were those who did not have any issues with it since it was only temporary. Everyone agreed that cutting the hair was not right.
Sympathy From Strangers
We are glad that not everyone was debating whether it was right or wrong. Some of the people tried to address Kelsey instead. There were comments that talked badly about Schaffen, but these guys chose to extend their sincere sympathies with the young girl. They paid her compliments and told her what she could do with the ‘do in the meantime. We are sure that Kelsey was glad to hear from these people!
Making Up For It
The story was receiving a lot of attention at that point. Christin realized that she could use the online clout for good. A lot of people were focused on the story, so she knew that there was a chance they would also want to help fix the problem. She opened an account on the GoFundMe website to share some light on the situation. The mom asked for help since she wanted to give Kelsey a new haircut. Back then, she was still unsure if this plan of hers was going to work. Let us see what happened next.
Showing Off Her Daughter
She could not believe that so many folks out there were moved by the post. She kept them all posted when she could to make sure that they had an idea of how Kelsey was doing. The poor girl still felt sad.
She No Longer Hid
The good news was that she was beginning to do her hobbies once more. No longer was she hiding her face. Christin was relieved that this was the case, so she shared pieces of information with the people following the story. She wanted them all to know that she had a great daughter no matter what.
Forgetting About The Trauma
People found out that Kelsey had been fishing and playing softball once more. No matter what she did, she always had that unwanted hairdo on top of her head. It was not like she had much of a choice here.
They all got to know her better through those updates. Many were inspired that this young girl managed to make it through something like that. The team always had her back, and we are sure that it helped as well. However, both Christin and Kelsey were taken by surprise when someone knocked on their doors.
Press And The Police
They found out that someone who heard about the story assumed that it was a parental abuse charge. The police were now involved, so Fox8 asked Police chief Colby Caroll for some insight into the case.
They ran a story on the way Schaffen and Sarah punished Kelsey by giving her a haircut she did not want. “I’ve been doing this since ’92 and I’ve never had a case I would say that’s like this,” Caroll said.
The authorities also paid a visit to the house where the couple lived. Both Schaffen and Sarah had been suspended from their workplace after they found out. If you wanted to know, the Middletown Township Fire Department put the two of them on “administrative leave” after the story came to light.
Consequences For Their Actions
The case was investigated. In the end, the judges decided that they had to be punished for what they did to the poor girl as well. As you can imagine, people online began to argue if it was the right thing to do.
Actions & Consequences
We just want you to remember that Schaffen and Sarah were the ones who talked about actions and consequences. Do you think they understood why it had to happen? Let’s see what’s next for the family.
The Court’s Decision
The authorities gave Christin sole custody of Kelsey. She decided to spread the good news by posting it on Facebook. It read, “After 5 hours of testimony and ‘evidence’ provided by both parties, the magistrate’s decision was for Kelsey to live with mom and her siblings!”
No More Joint Custody
“A huge weight has been lifted off of everyone’s shoulders and we cannot be any [happier]!!” she said. Even though Kelsey and Christin were thrilled to hear this, it also meant that Kelsey had to pay a price.
Aunt Kelly Helps Kelsey Out
After all, Kelsey was unable to retrieve her things from her dad’s house before she was removed from the place. We bet you can imagine just how unwilling she was to go back to that place. She did not want to see her dad and stepmom after what they did to her. Sadly, this meant that there was nothing she could do about the things that she left there. Aunt Kelly knew that Kelsey was bummed out about this, so she went to GoFundMe and created a fundraiser to help her replace the things she failed to bring.
It Would Be Different
Every single member of their family knew that the outcome was the best scenario imagine, but we can see why Kelsey and Christin were both upset about this. Their relationship with Schaffen completely changed in no time at all. They were not ready to do such a thing all of a sudden.
Encouraging Words From Strangers
What made things a bit easier was the support of their followers. Tatum Mathis, among others, took the time to say their sympathies. It was a good thing that things were about to turn around for the better!
Reaching Their Target Goals
They managed to hit the goals they set thanks to all the lovely people who were concerned for the poor girl. Aunt Kelly actually only set the target at a thousand dollars, but they were able to almost double that without any difficulty whatsoever. This was good, but you would be surprised when you hear that a single anonymous person donated $2,000. Whoa. At that point, the total was already $3,543. Now, what do you think they should do with all the money that they earned from the fundraiser?
Well, it is a no-brainer, isn’t it? They knew the first thing that they had to do was to get some work done on her hair. They went to the Lady Jane salon. It turns out that the staff there already knew the story!
Going Back To The Salon
The truth was that Haylee Ann already went there ahead of time to inform the staff of what happened. As you can see, she was ready to do anything to make Kelsey happy! The girl was in for a nice surprise.
Back at the salon, the whole staff was waiting for Kelsey to get there. They were ready to make magic happen once more. They were all impressed by just how strong the teen had been despite everything that went down. Everyone only wanted to make her happy again! Isn’t that sweet of the staff?
The Sky Is The Limit
They talked to her and ensured her that they can make anything happen. Haylee Ann did not leave either since she wanted to give Kelsey the support that she needed. She listened to their pieces of advice and decided that it was time for another change. Any guesses about what it would be now?
Happy Once More
It is no secret that it can take some time for your hair to grow out. This is why she agreed to just wear a wig until then. She was happy with the choices they offered her. The end result also made her happy! It almost made up for what her father and stepmother did to her.
Her mother had hoped hard that this second salon day would help her daughter feel better. She told the staff, “I’d like to thank the ladies…for making my baby feel more like herself!” She continued, “We truly appreciate you ladies so much!” At last, she can finally see her daughter smiling once again.
Her Very Own Fairy Godmother
Of course, Christin knew that this would have been impossible if Haylee Ann was not around to help her. Why do we say this? She did not only go to the salon and talk to them ahead of them, but she also worked on the fundraiser to secure the funding that they needed. Lastly, there was no way they would forget that she had been around when things started to go wrong with Schaffen. Now, what did the universe have in store after the second salon day?
Happily Ever After
It is a good thing that the story had a happy ending, even though there are still bittersweet moments. The people who followed the story were glad to hear the conclusion. More people began to pay attention as well! We never would have thought that a situation like this could bring out sympathy in others!
Going Viral Again
A couple of months after that, the post already garnered nearly 5,000 likes and tons of comments and shares. A user also told Kelsey, “You’re beautiful!” That assessment is definitely correct. In the end, the smile on this young girl’s face finally returned thanks to the effort of strong and lovely women.
Kelsey might not have been happy with the botched hair cut her dad and stepmom gave her, it turns out that this was not the worst. Can you believe that some people had to deal with even worse cuts?
Not everyone in the world can afford to pay $250 for Bose headphones. If you fall into this category, you should just follow in his footsteps! All it would take to do this is to pay your barber a few bucks. Tada!
Like Father, Like Son
His father was going to the barbershop that day, so Kevin wanted to come with him. He had no clue that his dad was in cahoots with the barber. Much to his horror, they played this terrible prank on him! Too far!
It’s Salvador Dali
Talk about a unique haircut, am I right? It is so special that we doubt anyone else has one like it. Just look at the intricacy of the details in the buzzcut. It is something only a talented barber can do.
Don’t Pull The Plug
We do not know what he had been thinking when he entered the barbershop on this day. To be honest, we do not think that he had been thinking at all. The top part looks like a whirlpool of some kind. Do you think it looks good with the braids? You know what, we’ll just leave him to it.
This is what you should do if you are in a biker group but want to look nice when the weekends roll in. This guy kept a small patch of hair on top of his head. We love that he made it look like a bowtie. Nice.
Do you think that this looks familiar? Well, it should. After all, this is something that you see on your mobile phone every single day. It is the poop emoji! Why on earth did he think that was a good idea?
We do not know about you, but we sure hope that this was done on purpose. The other option is that he got hit with static electricity that day. We can’t imagine how much hairspray and gel he had to use!
It is not a secret that Miley tried on a couple of epic hairstyles in the past. This one takes the cake for us, however. The spiky look and the bleached blonde tips do not appeal to us, but it might do it for rockers!
Do you love tennis? If so, the only way you can show it to the world is by getting a ‘do that looks just like a tennis ball. Just kidding! No matter what happens, don’t do it. We hope this dye was not permanent.
We agree that Oreos are the best, but we think that getting the color scheme and logo on your head is too much. Does she truly love them that much? Maybe they were paying her as a human advertisement.
Ariel Winter Too
Did you think that it was only regular folks who like to sport crazy hairdos? Not at all. Take a look at Ariel Winter. The Modern Family star gave her hair a bold pink dye job for a music festival!
Yep, we also have a lot of questions for the person who did this. First of all, how much gel and hairspray did this take? We bet it was a whole lot. He achieved a Noah’s Ark look. What a boat he has down there!
Are you a fan of the Smurfs? Oh, yeah? Would you be willing to dye your hair in their honor? You might not be, but this girl was. She was such a huge fan of the films that she went and did the unthinkable.
Carl is the type of person who wears his hat every single day. Others became used to it already, so he wanted to mix things up a bit. This is why he got his hair styled into a hat. Do you think it works for him?
If you want your candidate to win the elections, you should do everything you can to help them. He was a Hillary supporter and wanted the whole world to know about it. She lost, but he was already a winner!
Up Or Down?
Weddings often mean dressing up. This lady had no idea how she should do her hair for this ceremony. In the end, she decided that weirder was better. We do not know how we feel about this. Just leave the zipper at the craft store, will you?
The woman in the photo is the girlfriend of a pilot. She wanted to give him a big surprise on his birthday, so she went with a jet-setting ‘do! She had it all down pat, didn’t she? Mind you, the thing even spins!
Eyes At The Back Of His Head
If we had to guess, we would say that he was the loser. There is no doubt that he can scare off the kids with this, but we are sure that a couple of adults would stay away from him as well.
She was a big fan of the healthy-eating movement. How can we tell? Well, nothing communicates stuff like that better than attaching veggies to one’s head. These aren’t real carrots, however. They are made of hair!