Jackie just recently gave birth to her third child, and she and her husband decided it would be nice to take the whole family out for dinner. While they were sitting at the table enjoying their meal, Jackie started getting a weird feeling. They never thought their family dinner would turn out this way…
Behind Her Back
While she had stepped away from the dinner table for just a minute to use the restroom, their waitress had slipped her husband a note. When she was walking back and saw it all going down, her blood started boiling. What was going on here?
The Tears Came
She did not want to start any drama, but she could not justify letting this go so easily. Jackie felt a strong urge to say something to her husband about this, so she demanded that he show her the letter the waitress left.
Jackie Johnson-Smith discovered in the most difficult way possible just how hard motherhood can be, but despite all of the negative experiences she’s had before, nothing was as bad as what happened to her on this night at a pizza restaurant in Des Moines, Iowa.
Stirring Up Drama
While Jackie was away from the table and in the bathroom, their waitress felt confident enough to slip her husband a letter behind her back. She was not going to put up with this; she was absolutely furious.
Not Someone To Mess With
Jackie served in the United States Army for many years, so her personality hinted quite clearly that she was not someone you’d want to sneak around. Outside of her army life, Jackie devoted her life to being the best wife and mother she could be for her family.
A War Hero
Even though Jackie tried to put on a tough face all the time, the note that the waitress left for Jackie’s husband left her in hysterics. What kind of letter could make a strong veteran like Jackie break down in a pizza restaurant? Her husband looked at her speechless, as he couldn’t believe her reaction.
Not So Glamorous
Being a mom isn’t as glamorous as Hollywood movies make it seem to be. You are exhausted every day and are usually messy and un-put together due to taking care of your kids first. Jackie, however, always at least tried to look nice. Her husband was undoubtedly an attractive man; many women looked at him in public.
He Got A Lot Of Attention
Jackie found her husband to be quite attractive and felt lucky to have him, but she wasn’t oblivious to the fact that other women looked at him, too. She tried to brush it off as best as she could, she knew he loved her, but the looks the waitress was giving him tonight were unignorable.
A Blind Eye
Jackie couldn’t simply turn a blind eye to the fact that their relationship wasn’t the same as it used to be. She had three kids and her body had changed. She no longer had the physical or mental capabilities she once had, and she knew her husband noticed it as well.
Often times lately, Jackie was feeling unsure about her marriage. She kept wondering if she should say something, and now more than ever she was considering it. Usually, she tried to ignore these insecurities, but tonight she couldn’t help but let these thoughts and feelings go right to the surface.
Bringing The Family Out
Jackie and her husband, Tom, knew that they were overdue for a one-on-one date night, but they just had their third baby not long ago, so they decided this time that they would bring the whole family along for dinner.
Life With A Newborn
Right when the family arrived at dinner, their third-born child started crying. Jackie knew the baby had to be hungry, so she started feeding him at the dinner table. She was used to people staring at her while she fed her child, but no one looked at her like this waitress was right now.
The minute you become a mother, everyone starts judging your every move when it comes to raising your baby. When a mom lifts up her shirt in public to start breastfeeding her child, people tend to stop and stare. Whether they mean to be rude or not, it usually makes the mother very uncomfortable. All three of Jackie’s kids were breastfed, so she was used to these stares.
A Proud Momma
None of these stares or comments made Jackie change her mind on breastfeeding her child, but no one had ever looked at her quite like their waitress was at this restaurant. Jackie knew that she couldn’t just sit around and let the waitress get away with this; she had to do something.
All Eyes On Them
Jackie often noticed people staring at her or making comments about her while she breastfed her babies in public, so by her third child she grew quite used to it. She learned to ignore it and just keep feeding her child. There was nothing unnatural about what she was doing.
When Jackie noticed how the waitress was looking at her, she couldn’t help but feel very uncomfortable. Maybe the waitress had never seen someone breastfeeding before, but that was no reason to stare. Jackie had a feeling the waitress was going to do something, but she couldn’t figure out what she was going to do.
When Jackie started to get up and excuse herself from the table, her husband motioned to the waitress for her to bring them their bill. When Jackie got up, the waitress walked right up to the table and handed her husband this note.
A New Feeling
While Tom was reading the note, his face had a very distinct look to it; his facial expression was unlike Jackie had seen before. He had no idea that Jackie could actually see his face, and her face turned pale and cold when she saw him.
How Did He React?
Jackie assumed that whatever was written on the note wasn’t really important to her husband and that he’d simply toss the slip of paper to the side, but when he took out his phone after reading it, Jackie thought she was in a dream. She couldn’t believe it.
Had He Fallen In Love?
Jackie couldn’t help but feel heartbroken and wonder if her husband had really fallen out of love with her since she had all of her kids. Her heart was racing a mile a minute while she was trying to understand what was going on here. What was she supposed to do?
Her Jealousy Was Showing
Jackie had only walked away from the table for a short moment and at that time the waitress ran in and tried to make a move on her husband! She felt an uncontrollable sense of anger. Her brain couldn’t stop zooming through all of the possibilities of what was happening and what could have been written on that note.
The most heart-wrenching thing about this was that her husband thought to take out his phone and write something down afterward! Was he actually saving her number into his contacts list? She couldn’t believe what she was seeing. She asked to see the letter but started crying immediately after.
Everything Was Suspicious
The waitress offered to give Jackie’s husband an exclusive discount on their bill, one that was not a formal promotion from the restaurant. Was this her way of flirting with Tom? Jackie couldn’t believe it. She had only walked away for a minute!
The Center Of Problems
Right on the note, the waitress made a comment about Jackie’s bold choice to breastfeed her baby in public. Jackie was used to people looking at her and whispering about her behind her back, but she never thought her waitress would make such an upfront comment like this.
Before she could try to compose herself, Jackie had tears running down her face. She couldn’t help but have such strong feelings about what had happened here. Her waitress had just done something that Jackie never expected from someone before.
The Letter That Made Her Cry
Jackie sank low into her seat as her eyes just kept welling up with tears. She couldn’t help but cry after reading this letter. It left her inspired and powerful, but she never thought something like this would ever happen to her.
Her Note Went Viral
Jackie even had such a strong emotional response to what her waitress had said that she decided to post all about it on her social media accounts. She knew that breastfeeding, especially breastfeeding in public, was a controversial topic of conversation, but she couldn’t believe the responses she got on Facebook.
The Note Itself
She began by explaining, “I have breastfed three children… I have breastfed them in countless places both pleasant and unpleasant, discreetly and out in the open. I have gotten many looks and stares, but tonight erases any negativity I have ever received.”
An Experienced Waitress
The waitress was a young woman named Bodi. She had been working in this field for quite some time now, and she often took notice to the way that people– specifically, strangers– looked at moms while they were breastfeeding their children in public.
Sharing Her Emotions
“…I ate at Fong’s for the first time tonight. Having a fussy baby I nursed him for a while in the booth and eventually left the table early as to not disrupt the restaurant. The waitress gave this receipt to my husband. I was speechless and emotional,” Jackie said in her Facebook post. But what came next?
What Did The Note Say?
Though Bodi was not a mom and did not have personal experiences with breastfeeding, she got quite upset when she saw people who didn’t know these women judging them just for trying to feed their kids in public. Bodi wrote this note on their bill, “I bought one of your pizzas… Please thank your wife for breastfeeding!!”
She Expected The Worst
Jackie will openly admit that her mind immediately went to the worst place possible. She assumed that because her husband took out his phone after reading the note that he must have been writing down the waitress’s phone number. What Jackie did later was unexpected.
Tom simply wanted to take a photo of this amazing note so he could remember the moment forever, and Jackie decided to do the same thing. People on Facebook were leaving comments directed both at Jackie and at Bodi, and they were all amazing and heartwarming.
Raising Breastfeeding Awareness
With efforts put forth by Bodi and Jackie, they effectively started an amazing conversation that got people opening up about breastfeeding. Just like every mom around the globe who chose to breastfeed their child, Jackie wished she could just feed her child in peace without getting strange looks.
All She Wants
Bodi was living proof that not everyone who wasn’t a mother had a negative opinion about breastfeeding in public. Jackie knew that some people got uncomfortable talking about breastfeeding, but Bodi took a brave step and stood up for Jackie.
Even though breastfeeding is completely normal and natural, it was uncommon for a mother to get a smile or a reassuring comment when someone saw her doing it. Bodi commented later, “I noticed [Jackie] nursing and was so thrilled she did it!”
“…I tried not to stare because I didn’t want to seem creepy or make her feel uncomfortable, but I felt like doing jumping jacks!” This perfectly explained why Jackie thought that Bodi was looking at her… because she was! Just not for the reasons Jackie thought!
Sticking Up For Other Women
“After dealing with people’s reactions for so long, it was like the universe was giving me a pat on the back. I was too stunned to go back inside and thank the waitress,” Jackie commented.
Jackie decided to return to the restaurant to thank Bodi in person. “Although I don’t need a pat on the back for feeding my child, it sure felt amazing. It is amazing how we women can make each other feel when we empower each other.”
Since this couple had such a positive interaction with Bodi, their personal relationship and family dynamic grew stronger and healthier than it had ever been before. Jackie decided to post more about moms breastfeeding in public, and people loved it.
A Long Way
If we can guess one thing, it’s that Bodi never thought that her small act of kindness would mean the world to this couple, specifically to Jackie. Bodi changed Jackie’s life on this day, but Bodi’s life also changed. A little bit of kindness can go a very long way.